The secret to successful learning

Learnings on being patient with my fears.

Like cats, they will come to you and be soft and friendly if you are gentle. If you grab them without softness they may leave scratches.

Am I reaching a bit? …maybe

But you get the point. And I waited ever so patiently for this adorable cat to sit on my lap.

Yesterday, I had a Somatic Healing session with the magical @EmRoberts. (who, in my eyes, embodies both warm gentleness and deep courage)

One of the points we focused on yesterday was my fear of disappointing others, and how this fear affects how I am, be and perceive myself, others around me and opportunities in general.

The obvious question we explored was around expectations. What was I expecting of myself that I would succeed (satisfy) or fail (disappoint) at?

Now, there is a whole separate conversation to be had around failure and the magic that can be found within failure. Wonderfully, the topic of failure is something people are becoming much more comfortable talking about - the joy of failure, failing forward, ‘how to fail’ etc.

Back to disappointment and expectations… with gentle exploration of this fear and the expectations I was attaching to it I could see that I was fantasising about what expectations others may have of me and within this overthinking habit I was claiming these (slightly delusional) expectations and therefore the disappointment that came along with them.

Ahhh tactics of keeping me small and in my comfort zone… the ego strikes again!

Really (like most things) this is not about other people and instead about myself. The fear of disappointing myself.

I see this part of me that is so fearful of disappointment and I have had a conversation with myself.

I know, something I rely on in myself, I do the best I know how with whatever tools I have at the time. When I set expectations intentionally they are empowering and do not come with a label of disappointment if failure.

Additionally, what came to light was the feels that the word disappointment triggers… for me anxious feelings and dark cloud thinking. Anyone who was told by their parents “I’m not angry, I’m just disappointed” may be able to relate to this one. While the response of ‘disappointment’ may seem softer than ‘anger’, there is something so confusing about it - uncertainty, passiveness (is it passive aggressive?) While anger is clear, easy to understand and releases the tension more quickly.

Interesting.

Through this session with Em and on further reflection I have been able to step into this fear of disappointment, clear some limiting beliefs and untangle some parts of this that are holding me back.

My purpose of sharing this is to claim the energy of growth within me, remind myself and share about the power of being curious - gently invite your fears to the surface, be curious without judgement, explore and move through calmly.

Have questions? Send me an email or drop into my insta DMs. I’d love to chat with you.

Thank you for reading. I hope you have a gorgeous, sunny day.

Hey, I’m Marina

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